Let Go Of Others’ Mistake, You Will Set Your Heart Free

Let go of others’ mistake, you will set your heart free

Author: a Zen monk

Translated and condensed by Jane

 

Life’s suffering lies in attachment; life’s difficulty lies in letting go.

As a saying goes, one thinks of heaven, one thinks of hell.

Let go of others’ mistake, you will set your heart free.

If you struggle with resentment, all you get is endless torture.

 

01

The most stupid thing in this world is to punish yourself with others’ mistakes.

The most painful thing in life is not the harm caused by others, but the shackles we bind to ourselves.

The more experience you have, the more you understand that in the second half of your life,

time is less and less as you age.

80% or 90% of your life are unpleasant. Entangling it for a long time will only consume the present.

Wilde once said: “For myself, I must forgive something.

Because of one person, I cannot get up every night and plant thorns in the garden of my soul.”

It’s okay to suffer for a few minutes,

but if you are immersed in the mistakes made by others for a long time,

it will only erode your heart and you will miss more important thing.

Not everything in life is worthy of our attention.

It’s good enough to see through someones, so why bother to confront with them.

You just need to know something, not necessary to delve into it.

Life has always been deep in mud and sand,

and on the way to your personal growth, flowers and thorns always coexist.

Instead of competing vaguely, relieve your mind, so life can be turn around.

 

02

In our lifetime, we will meet all kinds of people.

Everyone has a different life experience, which results we live life at different levels.

Everyone has different manner,  and do things differently.

No one can guarantee that he will never make mistakes in his life,

and that he does not owe anything.

There is a saying in “The Great Gatsby”:

“Whenever you feel like criticizing anyone,

just remember that all the people in this world haven’t had the advantages that you’ve had.”

On the contrary, when you can let go of other’s imperfection,

you will understand the meaning of forgiveness.

The person, who always complain, can only see others’ mistakes.

For those who send out negative energy all day long,

good luck will naturally ignore him.

Your heart is a mirror.

What is in your heart, what is the world you see.

A Zen master has a student, who likes to complain.

One day, the Zen master put a handful of salt into a glass of water for his student to drink.

The student said: “It’s so salty that it tastes bitter.”

The Zen master sprinkled more salt into the lake and asked his student to taste the lake water again.

The student said after drinking it, “Pure and sweet.”

The Zen master said: “The pain in life is salt,

and its saltiness depends on the container in which water is contained.

Would you like be a glass of water or a lake of water?”

When a drop of ink falls into a glass of clear water,

water immediately changes its colour and cannot be drunk;

But a drop of ink mixes into the sea, and the sea is still blue.

The reason is simple, the scales of the two are different.

If you look down from twentieth floor, all you can see is a beautiful scenery.

If you Look down from the second floor, all you can see are garbages on the floor.

If people have sense of propriety, life is trivial.

Your mindset is affected by circumstance, circumstance is how you look at it.

Mr. Feng Zikai once said:

“Since there is nowhere to escape, it is better to be happy;

since there is no pure land, it is better to do meditation;

since it’s not as wished, it is better to be relieved.”

It is better to strive than to be angry.

Only after swallowing upset caused by others , you can expand your own dimension.

To tolerate others, it shows your capacity.

Being humble shows your quality.

Together, it is a person’s character.

 

03

Mr. Cai Kangyong once said: “Be nice to yourself, that is the person who will stay with you the longest.”

Letting go does not mean forgiveness, but it’s a kind of maturity for oneself.

As time goes by, we will eventually forgive those who have hurt us.

 An adult’s life is always half understanding and half compromise.

There is a saying: “It’s not heartless to not care about it,

It’s a way to learn letting go after experiencing good and bad,

and learn to let go with flow.”

Going with flow is not powerless, it’s a way not to force yourself or embarrass others.

A person’ lifetime is made up of countless yesterdays,

forget yesterday, chasing tomorrow, and do things every today.

No matter how bad things happened yesterday, it should not affect your mood today.

The rest of your life is short, you still have a long way to go, and there are bright stars to see.

Give your time to the most precious scenery.

The rest of your life is very expensive. I hope you can let go of others’ mistakes and set your heart free.

Cut off the sadness of the past, reconcile with yourself, and warmly embrace the world.